① It is imperative that all members feel welcome. Always be kind and supportive of one another. If you disagree with a post just ignore it. Do not, under any circumstances be mean in your comments. The recovery process is a precarious balancing act - people become hypersensitive to the things that trigger them.
② When describing behaviours please use the following terms only: restricting, binging, purging & over exercising. Additionally, please remember that numbers are not allowed in this forum. Posts that include specific number references (calories, weights, clothing size etc) will be deleted as they are both triggering and a distraction from the real issues at hand. Please replace numbers with *** or avoid them altogether.
③ No thinspo of any kind - reverse or otherwise. No videos and no pictures of such. It will be deleted.
④ Discussion of illegal drugs, or prescriptions that are not your own, or medication (your own) MUST be placed under a cut and labeled appropriately. No discussing specific brand names of laxatives, diet pills, or diuretics as this could be triggering to some.
⑤ Do not ask for or give out personal information - this includes such things as links to a blog outside of LJ, facebook, myspace, twitter, email address, MSN, AIM, phone numbers, or personal addresses. Posts containing such information will be deleted. You never know who is on the other side of the screen and what they might do with your information - this is for YOUR protection.
⑥ Any and all photos must be placed under an LJ cut.
⑦ No discussion of diets - this is a RECOVERY forum. Mention of any diet: ABC, 2468, grapefruit, apple, coffee and crazy, whatever - the post will be deleted and you will be banned.
⑧ Any post mentioning Self Harm must be placed under an LJ cut and labeled appropriately.
⑨ No pictures of nudity. This is not the place., and if you post such - it will be deleted and you will be banned without warning. .
Helping Someone with an Eating Disorder Advice for Parents, Family Members, and Friends
Eating disorders are serious conditions that cause both physical and emotional damage. While people with eating disorders usually try to hide the problem, there are warning signs you can watch for. Early treatment makes recovery easier, so talk to your friend or family member if you’re worried. You can’t force a person somebody with an eating disorder to change their behaviors or beliefs, but you can make a difference by showing that you care, offering your support, and encouraging the person to seek professional help.
Understanding eating disorders
Eating disorders involve extreme disturbances in eating behaviors—following rigid diets, gorging on food in secret, throwing up after meals, obsessively counting calories. But eating disorders are more complicated than just unhealthy dietary habits. At their core, eating disorders involve distorted, self-critical attitudes about weight, food, and body image. It’s these negative thoughts and feelings that fuel the damaging behaviors.
People with eating disorders use food to deal with uncomfortable or painful emotions. Restricting food is used to feel in control. Overeating temporarily soothes sadness, anger, or loneliness. Purging is used to combat feelings of helplessness and self-loathing. Over time, people with eating disorders lose the ability to see themselves objectively and obsessions over food and weight come to dominate everything else in life. Myths about Eating Disorders
Myth #1: You have to be underweight to have an eating disorder.
People with eating disorders come in all shapes and sizes. Many individuals with eating disorders are of average weight or are overweight.
Myth #2: Only teenage girls and young women are affected by eating disorders.
While eating disorders are most common in young women in their teens and early twenties, they are found in men and women of all ages.
Myth #3: People with eating disorders are vain.
It’s not vanity that drives people with eating disorders to follow extreme diets and obsess over their bodies, but rather an attempt to deal with feelings of shame, anxiety, and powerlessness.
Myth #4: Eating disorders aren’t really that dangerous.
All eating disorders can lead to irreversible and even life-threatening health problems, such as heart disease, bone loss, stunted growth, infertility, and kidney damage.
Treatments for eating disorders
There are many treatment options for eating disorders. The right approach for each individual depends on his or her specific symptoms, issues, and strengths, as well as the severity of the disorder. To be most effective, treatment for an eating disorder must address both the physical and psychological aspects of the problem. The goal is to treat any medical or nutritional needs, promote a healthy relationship with food, and teach constructive ways to cope with life and its challenges.
Often, a combination of therapy, nutritional counseling, and group support works best. In some cases, residential treatment or hospitalization may be necessary.
* Psychotherapy – Individual and group therapy can help your loved one explore the issues underlying the eating disorder, improve self-esteem, and learn healthy ways of responding to stress and emotional pain. Family therapy is also effective for dealing with the impact the eating disorder has on the entire family unit. * Nutritional counseling – Dieticians or nutritionists are often involved in the treatment of eating disorders. They can help your loved one design meal plans, set dietary goals, and achieve a healthy weight. Nutritional counseling may also involve education about basic nutrition and the health consequences of eating disorders. * Support groups – Attending an eating disorder support group can help your loved one feel less alone and ashamed. Run by peers rather than professionals, support groups provide a safe environment to share experiences, advice, encouragement, and coping strategies. * Residential treatment –- Residential or hospital-based care may be required when there are severe physical or behavioral problems, such as a resistance to treatment, medical issues that require a doctor’s supervision, or continuing weight loss.
Links http://www.bulimiahelp.org/ -> Online advice, information and tools http://www.edag.ca/ (it's in Halifax NS, local only) http://www.eatingdisorderexpert.co.uk/ A non-profit in the UK focused on eating disorders; diagnosing, signs, causes, risks and treatments. http://eatingdisorderrecovery.com/ Support, inspiration, education and treatment opportunities for people with eating disorders and those who love them. Contains: recovery issue articles; on line self-help program; DSM-IV-TR; research references; links; discussion forums; employment, internship and educational opportunities; in-patient programs. Q & A. http://edrsweb.org/ Eating Disorders Recovery Support was established to promote the recognition and treatment of eating disorders in all populations. It is our aim to reduce the shame and stigma currently attached to eating disorders and mental illness; improve access to care through advocacy and screening for eating disorders; and lobby our representatives for improved coverage of psychiatric illnesses and ultimately mental health parity. http://www.myedhelp.com/ is dedicated to helping individuals cultivate hope, healing, and empowerment in eating disorder recovery. It is a place for inspiration that offers free information on eating disorders, strength based tools for self growth, forums, interviews with experts in the field, and an online social network that includes tools, resources and connections for those with eating disorders.